We learned we were expecting our third child in early December of 2007. We were excited and filled with anticipation. On March 30, 2008, at our 20-week routine sonogram, we were told that our baby didn’t have any fluid around him. This meant that when he was born, he would likely only live for a few minutes to a few hours, if he lived at all, because his lungs would be unable to form due to the lack of fluid in the womb.
Welcome to Alexandra's House
Life is full of uncertainty with no guarantees. If the life expectancy of your unborn, newborn, or infant is limited, Alexandra’s House is here to help. Many services are provided directly through Alexandra’s House and others are coordinated through a variety of community resources. Residential care is available for those meeting specific criteria.
Alexandra’s House is a community based, all volunteer, peer-led perinatal hospice and infant care system for parents pregnant with babies with lethal or sub-lethal anomalies, for pregnancies that end unexpectedly at any point, from any cause, and for infants who die in the community, any cause. While its foundation is rooted in faith, its services offer a practical solution in meeting the time-intensive needs of families in these situations.
Alexandra’s House does not interfere with or substitute for any existing medical, social, or hospice agencies’ services. What it does is to help fill in the many gaps in care that do exist, as defined by those who have lived the experience of caring for a dying unborn or newborn baby. The ideal time to consult Alexandra’s House is at the time of diagnosis or loss: a) so parents are fully informed and b) to help alleviate some of the acute anxiety and very common feelings of isolation and abandonment. Alexandra’s House does not charge for its services nor does it accept contributions from people they serve.
Over 90% of our referrals come from the medical community – perinatologists, hospitals, doctor’s offices, sonographers, the community at large and through our website. We have followed families in America as far away as Alaska and have provided assistance in the UK, France, Germany, and New Zealand.
Services include: bringing meaning to suffering, assistance in grief resolution, parent-parent partnering, birth planning, funeral planning, long-term support, one to one and group meetings, pre-natal and post-natal housing, if required. If a baby survives and is dismissed from the hospital, the family and baby can stay here for the duration of their life. Professional nursing services are provided through a licensed hospice agency.
On July 26 of 2000, we took our first look at Miriam Ann as we had a routine ultrasound. She was sixteen weeks.
On September 14th 2007, my husband and I found out that we were expecting our first baby. We were both incredibly happy as was our family.
My first trimester went like any other. I felt sick, moody but still remained happy through it all. My husband and I wanted a baby for years but decided to wait until I graduated from nursing school.
By Sarah S.H. Postpichal
March 2, 2002
Dedicated to my son Weston Garret Postpichal. I will never forget the time we
shared together. I will love you until the sun turns cold and all the stars fall from
During the sonogram the nurse told my mother and I that so far everything she had seen was perfect. I watched Weston move around the screen so fast, I remember saying he had reminded me of a kick boxer. We all laughed.